Three weeks ago I knew that the time was right to put aside my reservations and start to blog. I had benefited so much from the thoughts and stories of others that I felt confident enough to do the same myself.

I had some thoughts, not much more, so I started. I didn’t know where my thoughts would lead (I’m still learning) but I needed a title to get the ball rolling.

‘Not disabled, differently able’ would do. I knew it was an overused cliche but I was more concerned about the content than the title so I went with it.

A few posts in I had a clearer vision and purpose but the title wasn’t right. I had never been happy with ‘Not disabled, differently able’

The thing is, I am disabled. The term doesn’t embarrass or belittle me. Why try and tart up the wording in an attempt to seem unnecessarily defiant? I may have different abilities but I am still disabled, who gives a shit? Nobody should feel the need to rebel against their disability.

So now that I have settled in and received some remarkable support its time to deal with the title.

Music is a massive part of my life. Before the accident I was a musician. Music still inspires me, it challenges me, it encourages me and it supports me.

A song called ‘Time of Your Life’ by Green Day does all that. A simple song but still powerful. I have always appreciated the music but recently I have learnt to appreciate the message.

Another turning point
A fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist
Directs you where to go

So make the best of this test
And don’t ask why
It’s not a question
But a lesson learned in time

It’s something unpredictable
But in the end it’s right
I hope you had the time of your life

So take the photographs
And still frames in your mind
Hang it on a shelf
In good health and good time

Tattoos of memories
And dead skin on trial
For what it’s worth
It was worth all the while

It’s something unpredictable
But in the end it’s right
I hope you had the time of your life

It’s something unpredictable
But in the end it’s right
I hope you had the time of your life

One of the great qualities of music is that everyone can interpret the meaning in their own way.

For me, this song is about accepting your situation and appreciating what you have.

We are not in complete control over our lives. We can find ourselves travelling down a path that we did not see coming.

We may be challenged by this but we must face it head on. We don’t have a choice so we must adapt to it rather than fight against it.

We should cherish our memories and remember all that we have to be thankful for. We should look back on these times as blessings.

We may not have chosen this journey but we are travelling along it nonetheless. We must make the most of it, it is the only journey we have

I want these sentiments to be the foundation of my writing and of my life.

That is why ‘Time of Your Life’ is the perfect title. Rather than fighting against my situation I want to embrace it, celebrate it and enjoy it for what it is.



  1. Steven, You are my soul-brother. We think the same. You are truly an amazing human being! Thank you for finding me in cyberspace. -Pamela-

    • I have no doubt that the pleasure will be all mine. Soul-Sister it is, you have a pet name already!

  2. You are a strong warrior, Steven. I admire your view on life! Music is indeed a beautiful way to deal with all kinds of situations. I found that in writing as well. And I agree, a disability is what it is, you can’t give wrap that.
    Thank you for sharing, I can learn a thing or two from you.
    Lots of love,

    • It was the poem you blended with ‘Bring Me to Life’ by Evanescence that crossed my path and caught my attention.

      Seems like we have something in common already. Music can be great therapy.

      Thank you

      • Yes it can! Glad you liked that. It’s kind of a new writing style I am trying out, and I really love it. It combines two of my favorite things, music and writing. Some songs can really lift me up when I am feeling down or just explain my feelings better then I ever could.

  3. music lifts the spirit when the weaknesses of one’s mind and body threatens to flatten it-speaking from experience here, ho hum!

    • I completely agree with you. A very powerful art form that can, as you say, clear the dark clouds. However, it can also drag us down. Depressing music or music that triggers sad memories is responsible for many a shed tear.

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